Dating can be super daunting at the best of times, never mind after a year of your life being tipped upside down by restrictions and social distancing. But singletons can now rejoice! A touch of normality is starting to return to the UK, we can finally begin to venture back out on our quest to find love (or a good bonk!), and people are on the hunt to find a significant other now more than ever.
You’re probably feeling a bit rusty, though. And it’s no surprise – we’ve been locked within the same four walls for the best part of a year. But fear not… I come armed with five tips to help you get your dating mojo back after lockdown.
Get your chat on and build some confidence
It’s no secret that, in general, the more you do something, the easier it becomes. And this holds true for making conversation too. So, when the opportunity arises to have a chinwag with someone willing to lend an open ear, take it! Whether it’s someone serving you at the supermarket, a friend you’ve not seen in the while, or even just your cat, get that tongue wagging (not like that… cheeky!) and work on your communication skills.
Take some time for a little self-care
Nothing gets you ready for the big wide world of dating – whether it’s dating in Hull like me or dabbling in some Northamptonshire dating – quite like feeling good about yourself. And, if you’re anything like me, you’re not feeling your best after months of no salons (hello bushy eyebrows and roots!). So, indulge in whatever you know will make you feel good. Maybe update your wardrobe with some new outfits that make you feel like a million dollars? Perhaps a relaxing massage and pamper session makes you feel great? Maybe you wanna check out teeth whitening options for that Hollywood smile? Whatever you go with is sure to perk you up and leave you feeling ready to take on the world.
Dabble in a range of different dating apps
Online dating is on the rise, and there’s a huge range of apps and free dating websites out there with tonnes of people waiting to chat, so get signed up, curate your profile, and have a browse! Sure, you’ve probably heard of the likes of Tinder and Bumble, but did you know there’s a plethora of niche dating sites for you to sink your teeth into as well? I’m talking local sites like an Northamptonshire dating site, sites for certain kinks like BDSM, and even some really niche sites for clowns and mullets lovers… yes, really! So get searching and see what tickles your fancy.
Flirt, flirt and flirt some more
If you really want to ramp up you flirting skills ahead of real life dating, then practise makes perfect. Head out to the pub with your mates, and flirt away… yes, even with people you don’t necessarily fancy. It’s a great way to see what flirting techniques work a treat; if it doesn’t go to plan, you don’t have to see them ever again, and if it goes down well, you get an instant confidence boost… nothing to lose!
Take as much time as you need in the ‘pre-date’ phase
Remember that there’s absolutely no rush to get out on a ‘real‘ date. Slow and steady wins the race, right? You’re probably feeling out of sync and a little apprehensive… and that’s totally fine! So exchange a few texts first, perhaps have a video call, and only go on a ‘real’ date when you feel ready.